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WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A GOOD EDUCATION PARENT?
A good education parent is not an expert in chemistry or able to recite the Gettysburg Address.Rather, a good education parent is one who makes sure his/her child is ready for school every day: rested, fed, clean, loved, and prepared to make the most of what the teachers have prepared.
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TIPS FOR GOOD EDUCATION PARENTS
Talk daily with your child – even when they pretend they are not listening or when they work to escape the sound of your voice. Your efforts to engage show that you care in both good times and tough times. The words sink in like water into the ground; it takes time for them to be absorbed.
As children age, many increasingly resist having their parents around school. Too bad. While “helicoptering” may not be the preferred option, there are many ways to be involved at a distance safe for you and your student. The connection to the school helps you be informed, understand the culture, and build relationships with staff that can get you and your student the answers, support, and encouragement needed.
Ways to Get Involved:
- Take tickets at the dance or game.
- Chaperone a field trip.
- Sort books in the library.
- Make copies for a teacher.
- Leave treats in the teachers’ lounge.
- Greet students as they get on/off the bus.
- Tend to the flower boxes near the front of the school.
- Know who your Site Based Decision Making Council (SBDM) members are, and find ways to be involved in their work.
Check the Backpack
The mysteries of the universe may be hidden in the disarray of a child’s backpack. Look for forms, announcements, and permission slips that are supposed to reach you. Make sure the prized family treasure has not been packed for show-and-tell or a stash of energy drinks and candy are becoming the diet of choice. A consistent check reminds your student that s/he cannot get away with anything you did not try at that age.
Students represent themselves, their families, and their schools 24/7. Consistent expectations for respect for others and respect for self in all settings build healthy habits of behavior that result in higher self-esteem and increased positive interactions with friends, family, school, and community.
The school day finishes not when the school bell rings, but when the student gets home and spends time completing the homework of the day – every day. Homework is best done when there is a consistent time, space, and priority set at home. Does you child claim to have no homework? Then read.
The next school day begins the night before with a consistent bedtime routine. Full stomach; lights out; and electronics off!
More Tips specific to students in Elementary, Middle, and High Schools below.
PROBLEM IN SCHOOL?
Tools and Info
Our family resource centers are here to help with any needs that stretch beyond the classroom. From last-minute school supplies to therapeutic services, the FRYSCs are here for you. Click here for elementary needs or click here for middle/high school needs.
WAYS TO ENGAGE YOUR STUDENT AT ALL AGES
For All Students
At every age and at every school, help your child become part of something. Be it a club, team, activity, service learning, play, concert, etc., students who are part of activities outside of class have more opportunities to make friends, explore talents, and develop their identity.
- Read both to and with your child!
- Encourage imagination, pretending, acting, and performance.
- Support uneven development. It is normal for some classmates to be behind in some areas and ahead in others.
- Engage in role playing to help students practice responding in different scenarios.
- Focus on your evolving relationship with your child. You are always the parent, but your child needs a new sense of comfort to come to you with more difficult personal matters.
- At this age, children are more likely to tell a narrow version of the story. Trust your instinct and do your homework as you determine reward or punishment.
- This age is tough on parents too. Give yourself room to make mistakes and a pat on the back for surviving your child’s middle school years.
- Begin monitoring technology use! Know what social networks your child is accessing, and monitor their activity.
- Begin thinking about college and career preparation!
- Draw on role playing to help your child prepare for the peer pressures that will ramp up during this time.
Even as your child nears or reaches the age of 18, your child needs you. Rules, responsibilities, check-ins, and curfews help keep everyone safe, focused, and looking toward the future.
- Pay attention to college and career preparation and planning beginning the first day of 9th grade – and don’t stop until your child receives his/her diploma!
- Social pressures kick into high gear towards the end of 9th grade and well into 10th. Keep the lines of communication open.
- Encourage your child to challenge him/herself in the tough classes.